Facebook algarythum for Posh

Facebook has changed the algorithm that when people like your page they have to stay activated and continuously like your stuff.
They also have changed that if you have certain words or a link in your status its going to make it drastically less people to see it.
So put your link in the comments if you need to.
The words that facebook tags are
Sale
Free
Like
Share
Comment
Giveaway.
So if you need to make a post with any of those words make an image with the words and put a fun little saying or blurb about the image.
The average post length in someones feed that a page will stay on is 20 minutes.
The best time to post is in the morning before 10 at lunch time and after 8 when people are in bed.
When you post things go back in about 3 hours later and share that image from your business page on your page again. it will put it back into peoples feeds.

Tagging people will also bring it back up in peoples news feeds.
So to get people re interested in your page I would have a contest, or something like that. Have them tag someone in the picture that you post and they get a discount or sample.
that way when people tag the random people it shows up in their news feeds and in their friends news feeds. and so on.

Don't tag people all at once space it out so that the it will continue to pop up in peoples newsfeeds so randomly thru the day just tag one loyal customer then maybe a few hours later or the next day tag another.

in order to stay in peoples top interests you can't go extended periods of time without posting. you HAVE to post every day. So schedule them ahead of time like on a sunday schedule out your posts your going to make.


if you make a call to action on your page, like a question or a this or that. or a game then more people will like and comment and it will stay in their top interests.

Keep the posts short and sweet people dont like seeing a bunch of words they scroll past it.

BUT if you make a funny video of yourself or a slideshow you are more likely to get that seen than a picture

ALWAYS post a picture with the text. never just the text.


Ok if you have any questions let me know!!

My Sweet Fynlie Girl

I have learned to follow my gut instinct over the last five years and it’s never failed me yet. Over the last 15 months my gut has been telling me that my 2 year old may not be as high maintenance as I thought, and that it runs a lot deeper than just being a sensitive soul. Maybe my gut has been telling me a lot longer than that, but I was in denial.

That’s the thing about the term ‘special needs’ – you are accepting of everybody else’s children under that definition,  as long as it’s not your own children. I guess you don’t want to accept that life is never going to be normal by society’s standards and normal milestones standards. It’s hard to embrace it.

Having a child with additional needs, with or without a diagnosis, is a hard pill to swallow. Not many people will admit that. But it’s true.You think of everything that cannot be done, the places you can’t go, the milestones that may never be reached. You worry about bullies and stigma. You fret about the future. We allow our thinking to pave the future in our subconscious. We make excuses in public. We feel awkward. We apologise, a lot.

I admit I struggled when I realised my child may have Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD).  My child? No, not my child; yet she ticked every box! Things started to make sense. She wasn’t just sensitive, she was overloaded and couldn’t cope. They weren’t tantrums 40 times a day, she wasn't wanting to bite, hit, punch, scream, screech, jump out of my arms, they were meltdowns from sensory overload.  She wasn’t being awkward about her clothes being just right. She wasn’t being naughty when she had a screaming fit because she couldn't have that food, or didn't want that food, she wasn't throwing a fit just because she is hungry, her senses aren't getting to the right places so her hunger is coming across as angry to her. She wasn’t just sensitive when sounds made her cry. She was overloaded. Her senses are literally in control (or out of control) of her every thought. Her brain was having a traffic jam with her senses not getting to the right places. This breaks my heart. I cannot fix it. Her momma cannot fix it.

How as a momma did I not know something was wrong? I’d have done things so differently. I would have been more patient. I wouldn’t have made her have time-out for every meltdown that occurred. I wouldn’t have yelled when she wouldn’t try a new recipe. I wouldn’t tell her she was rude when she wouldn’t acknowledge people or say goodbye.  I could kick myself now looking back. How did I not know?! But life is too short for regrets.

 This is the life we have, my baby has. She’s not defined by a label. Her brain may be wired a little differently to the average person, but that doesn’t make her weird or less of a person.

I felt like my heart was being torn in two. I think it was part shock and part relief. Shock that my baby, my sweet innocent girl had something wrong, and relief that finally we didn’t have to plod along and struggle our way through each day alone anymore.

After researching SPD I understood more and more about the challenges my baby was facing, and I became prouder by the second for her accomplishments. Daily life is overwhelming for her sometimes, but she tries so hard. Even simple tasks such as getting dressed are a big accomplishment. I find myself begging the Sock God to be kind and not make the seams irritating today, I hold my breath when labels meet skin. I am constantly holding my breath waiting for the next reaction armed with calming words and cuddles.

I try and be as patient as possible. That is a key factor with SPD. Anxiety levels are already on the edge daily, and an impatient momma will not help. I’d like to say I have perfected this, but that would be lying. Some days I yell. Some days I cry. Some days I feel mentally exhausted. Some days I am a crap mom.

There is not a second goes by that I am not planning the next moves around the sensory needs of my child. It is a never-ending job and my mission is to avoid meltdowns at all costs. Sometimes that means staying home all day, or spending days speaking about upcoming plans, or swapping housework for an afternoon of cuddles. I am never ever too busy for cuddles, ever. 

I fret about going to the mall, to parties, to peoples houses, to new places, but it never stops me going. I do not want my girl growing up feeling ashamed or lonely. I want her to know it’s OK to feel how she does, and that people understand. I want to teach her healthy strategies to cope with her issues.

I want the best for her. And the best is not me denying there is an issue. The best is not me wallowing in self-pity and feeling sorry for her and her future. The best is instilling self worth into her every single day.

I need to remember that she is highly sensitive to the world around her, and that even on calm days she probably feels like a tornado has just buzzed around her.

SPD wares you out as a momma, but imagine how much more it wears out the child who has it?

If you are wanting to know more details about SPD 

http://www.thejennyevolution.com/what-is-sensory-processing/

I am a good mom.

Lately Declan has been oh so very fussy, not being comforted by anything. Leaving me to wonder what am I missing what am I doing wrong or forgetting to do. Making me feel like a horrible mother to my little man.
My miss priss Fynlie has celiacs and not being able to give her the things she wants to eat, telling her no makes me feel like a bad mom.
I often feel like between my youngest two my sweet tender hearted Tracer boy gets the blunt of my bad moods or that I can't always sit and play with him. Makes me feel like a bad mom.
In one day I often feel like a bad mom, I am constantly trying to find new things to help me be a better mom that in my head thinks they deserve, but I have to constantly remind myself of this quote bellow. I am a good mom.

My brother

Growing up I always knew he was out there, I would often imagine what he was doing or what he looked like. I once even made a profile on a site to look for him (mom wasn't too happy about that one). My mom was 17 when she gave my brother up for adoption. She always said she didn't want to be the only one looking, or be the one to tell him he was adopted. Turns out, he knew all along, and had been looking for her for 9 years! Then the day before mothers day his wife found the one and only adoption profile page my mom had put up. He got ahold of her on mothers day, talk about blowing my sisters and I's mothers days presents out of the water. Eric has a family :) a super awesome wife! A sassy little 2 year old girl, a rambunctious 6 year old boy and a sweet 9 year old girl. Our family grew by 5!
It has been a dream, my mom said earlier and it describes it the best, we all were happy before with life, but now the level of happiness has grown so much. It's so surreal, we have a brother with a name, a face that goes with the name. What's even better is that he fits in perfect with our family with such ease that is so comfortable to talk, laugh and make memories that we missed out on growing up. It's been so fun telling him the stories of our childhod and hearing his. It has only been two weeks since mothers day but it feels like we have known for a lifetime, it feels so natural. I know I'm walking on cloud 9, mom said she has passed cloud 9 and is on cloud 15. 

 Our family is now complete there's not the lingering questions. Which is amazing. 

Declan's Newborns

So I just got Declan's newborns back from the fabulous Tai Lee Photography! 

She is seriously amazing!! I love them all so much! I use Tai for everything from day one.

So if you are in the market for a newborn photographer she is your gal.

Aren't they fantastic??

These aren't all but they sure are my favorites!!

Mission Statement :)

So as I grew up in my small little town I was very teased since I was a little girl, always for some stupid reason ranging from my last night and how it could be made into so many different words to my chest size to my health issues and having a baby in high school, I could keep going but I don't want to lol.

But every year when I would go shopping for school clothes I would find shirts and clothes that I thought was SO CUTE but I would think of every possible way I would get teased for it so I would not end up buying it if I came up for a reason. As a result I ended up with a plain jane super boring not me wardrobe. To this day even though I am graduated I still have this thinking and mentality. 

So this year my goal for the year is to buy clothes that I like. I dont want to want to think of other people when I buy clothes, or do anything I want to buy and do things because I like it or I want to do it.

So that is my mission statement my goal!! 

I will not live and shape my life around what other people think or say.

But on a happier note it is almost Valentines day!! YAY!!

I love this day!! I love the cute outfits and the frills!! 

I got cute pictures of the kids done for it!!

Life :)

So the kids are now 3 months and 3 years!

It's a good time! Trace is such a rambunctious little boy! 

Fynlie has been coming into her personality more and more each day

she sits and smiles a ton it is super cute!

We recently got a new place and we love it so far! :)

I can not wait to decorate it for the holidays and get it 

how I want it to look!! 

:)